I’m a people person, friendly, and approachable BUT I’m stingy with my presence.
Welcome to the life of a nice person with standards. No, not the standards used to date someone. The standards used to decipher if I’m going to actually put pants on, leave the house, and associate with someone or go somewhere. You see, I’m the most down to Earth person you’ll ever meet but I also respect myself more than most. I respect my time, energy, self, and happiness and never put any of those things in jeopardy.
I would rather miss out on events, have a few friends, or even sit home alone than be stressed out or unhappy. I’m not antisocial. I’m selectively social.
I value my time
I will not spend time in environments where I’m not comfortable or feel anxious. I work and have various commitments. Why would I want to spend any of my free time with people that will likely talk about me or make me feel uncomfortable. I refuse to waste my time. If I’m not getting something positive out of the experience, you can politely count me out.
I’m extremely protective of my inner peace
I’m a firm believer that the only drama and negativity a person has in their life is the drama and negativity they allow. I don’t put myself in the crosshairs of people that can mentally or emotionally drain me. Been there, done that, and have no desire to repeat that cycle.
Friend or family, it’s not happening
I don’t believe in the whole that’s your family so you have to accept their horrid behavior and hangout with them thing or the even the whole you’ve been knowing them so long you shouldn’t take it to heart stuff. If you aren’t good for me, you are not welcome near me and, trust me, I’m not looking to be around you. I know it sounds harsh but it’s true. I love my family and friends but I have a limit. I truly love and care about others (more than I probably should) but I’ve learned to love and protect myself more. I don’t have to put up with anything I don’t want to so I don’t. It’s that simple.
I believe that you are the company you keep
I don’t have a judgmental bone in my body and could befriend a rock if it looked approachable. However, I will not associate with someone that gives me bad vibes or has zero respect for themselves or others. I like to spend time with people who are driven, positive, and have goals for their lives. As my mom used to say “Birds of a feather flock together.” No, my friends are not perfect but I can honestly say that they strive to be successful, we motivate each other, and have each other’s best interest at heart.
There is something beautiful and rewarding about being in control of your surroundings and the emotions that come with it. I will never apologize for valuing my time, expecting people to treat me how I want to be treated, and putting such a high value on my inner peace.
I’m not anti-anyone. I’m pro-self.
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